Eating together in a javanese family is not common. Once I blame javanese feodalism for it, but recently I found a more touching reason of what is(was) happening. My grandma told me a bitter story of how generally ordinary javanese people lived in the old time, poor, and lack of food. Therefore usually parents eat less delicious food (e.g. cassava) while the children eat better food (e.g. rice) in a hope of better development their body and health. It is pretty reasonable not to have a meal together, because generally javanese parents do not want their little children to know their parents suffering. Sounds like this lyrics "And we were raised, to see world is fun and take it if we can" of "ode to my family".
Unfortunately this practice is still very common today even though food difference is rarely happened. This situation might be strange for "civilized" people, but we should not judge for we might not know what really happens behind the scene.
Unfortunately this practice is still very common today even though food difference is rarely happened. This situation might be strange for "civilized" people, but we should not judge for we might not know what really happens behind the scene.
